You know that feeling of self-doubt that arises when
you hear something so many times you start believing its true, even if deep
inside you know it’s not?
Like when you look in the mirror and see nothing
wrong with your body, but if someone starts saying otherwise, over and over,
with the sole purpose of upsetting you (and you know that)… But after a while
you start looking in the mirror and not liking what you see anymore.
The power of suggestion used for hurtful intents can
cause emotional scarring that runs deeper than any wound. Because physical
scars can be empowering, they can be a reminder that you are strong, that you outlived
something. But the emotional scar it’s always going to be there. Even if you
overcome it, the self-doubt it’s still there and can (and probably will) come
and go in its own “free will” at the most unexpected situations.
I know first-hand how
cruel people can be with their words. And I know how the silliest thing can
trigger and emotional episode, a thought or a state of mind that you fought so
long in the past to get over. But I also think people in general are too
attached to their own insecurities, and it’s not always their fault. We can
blame society for how it makes us think that something it’s not right (even if
we believe there’s nothing wrong with it) because it isn't socially accepted; that
it’s wrong to do certain things or think in certain ways. Who stated that
anyway? As long as it isn't causing damage or pain to anyone and is making us
happy, why should it be wrong?
It’s our lives, we are
the ones living it – not society. So be free, be spontaneous. Do whatever you
want to do with the time you were given and be happy.
“Happiness depends upon ourselves” - Aristotle
Andie Maars
